From The Heart Of Pastors

Having lived the majority of my life in the home of pastors, I have seen the need for Pastors to share, as well as others to better understand our hearts and lives. I grew up as a pastor's kid (PK) and after graduating Bible College my husband and I took our first church when I was quite young. Come on in, make yourself comfortable, may the Lord bless and comfort you during this time (and always).

Wednesday, November 15, 2017


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Heavenly Father we agree as ONE for Pastoral Support Teams to arise in each church and community across this vast earth.

Raise up Aaron's, Timothy's, Lydia's and many more with this like-minded heart; all
united together to pray for their pastors, wives and children.
We recognize the onslaught of the enemy to try to discourage pastors as they serve others as they serve You.

We ask You give these teams vision, direction, and unction that will indeed empower them to be that
Pillar for their pastor. Give them creativity to help better equip the church. May they be a buffer we pray for the Pastor as You are a buffer for all of us.

In Jesus Name we ask,

1 Corinthians 15:58 “Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.”

Hebrews 13:17 “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.”

Monday, September 25, 2017


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The Lord has been speaking to me about  'PURPOSE'; 'The God Purpose' for ALL OF OUR LIVES! He has intensely burdened me for ones who God has many plans for (quite frankly, that is everyone);  yet are not  listening, or willing to walk this particular path. Wow, this type of a 'WALKING PATH' --- 
is a CLOSE WALK WITH JESUS! It's quite intimate as you feel His Hand Holding and guiding you along; results are that we are being filled with  deep peace and a great joyful anticipation as well! 
PURPOSE: deliberate plans for our lives. 
It is the -
SOURCE OF TRUE HAPPINESS which is done by living-out the purpose God has for all of us. 

"And Jacob was left alone; and there wrestled a man with him until the breaking of the day." Gen. 32:24 

I.) JACOB first had to be ALONE!  --- OUCHA! Nobody really likes loneliness... we can't even keep our phones far from us cause we long for some kind of human contact. 
BUT... this is where we will HEAR AND FIND OUR GOD;  we are NEVER ALONE ANYWAYS!
II.) Jacob had to wrestle God...ONE WHO WAS STRONGER THAN HE WAS! This is where we travail in prayer, it's where we (self) wrestle not against God but truly longing for our flesh to be placed under His subjection: His power for HIS BLESSING!

Is this where the 'CROSS' ROADS MEET? 
Think about it; look what has happened to the alter in our churches and our prayer meetings? 
What about  praying through there and even in the alters of our homes?

III.) He Persevered All Night Long ("...till the break of day.")  --- Finding our purpose takes time, it takes fighting, it takes waiting and never giving up.
Gen. 32:26 "But Jacob said, “I will not let You go unless You declare a blessing on me.” 
It takes:
To be labelled: 
“For you are a holy people to the LORD your God; the LORD your God has chosen you to be a people for Himself, a special treasure above all the peoples on the face of the earth." Deuteronomy 7:6-8



Is this difficult to truly answer?

Has the path taken an abrupt change down another road of purpose? [It happens.]

This is definitely a road where we don't walk BY looking in the mirror of 'self!' Truly, where would that lead?

It's a path where GOD IS... where we clearly see and hear Him!

Where we will see the FRUIT of FAITHFULNESS living an obedient surrendered life in Him!

I know the ministry is HARD and 
it is very lonely!  
But, if we WALK IN THE PURPOSE God has ...NOT MAN'S, NOT OURS...BUT GOD'S --- the rewards are priceless!

Are you at a CROSSROADS right now? 
Take time out....sometimes that means a lot of time. 😃⏲
Wait in God's Presence! 
Wrestling will happen if you continue forward --- it's a good thing. Don't stop...for the 
The CALL OF OUR GOD /  HIS LEADING TO WHERE - TO WHOM -  & THE WHEN... indeed will come!

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts higher than your thoughts."
Is. 55:8-9

Wednesday, May 31, 2017


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As told to me by Sheila Hester

   This is a story about one of the godliest, loving ladies I know. Her life literally has been a Faith Walk.
Sheila Hester is a Pastor's Wife; who is an amazing support to her husband and church.
If you see her little frame from afar; (as she is walking with her cane and sometimes a little walker for years); you will notice HER SMILE THAT LIGHTS UP THE ROOM! Even when she is hurting!  When in a crowd, one can hear her laughter and joy as well.
At the same time; she cries and laments over souls, as well as for those who are suffering. She hugs tight and loves big.
She is well acquainted with suffering through the years battling one health issue after another, as well facing trials in normal life; especially in the ministry.
She shared with me recently what the Lord did through her and for her as she underwent serious surgery.
Most people are put to sleep but with her health issues she had to stay awake and 'feel' this procedure.

     "I had to stay awake for the surgery, it was awfully painful!  Facing a problem during surgery; I prayed out loud for the doctors to have super-duper natural wisdom to know what to do.

[The doc told me later he had never had anyone pray for him...surprising I had the presence of mind to do so.]

This was a God-thing thing for sure!  After about an hour and a half; I told the doctors I had reached the end of my coping skills & they said they couldn't give me anything yet, and said I had to lay perfectly still. 

  I prayed to God for courage and for his help. Immediately, the Heavenly Father gave me the idea to sing to get my mind off the pain. 

I asked my surgeon if it was ok to do so; he said "Anything that could keep me from moving!"   So I sang every spiritual song I could think of, and  when I got breathless;
I quoted scriptures out loud to drown out satans words to cause me fear.

It all worked!!! 

   At one point, I cried out to the doctor; "PAIN!!"    Pain was in my chest, arm and jaw!  There was no response; so, I kinda screamed-out the second time.
 [They had told me to tell them if I had any chest pain.]

About 5 people appeared, but still no response.  

YET, God suddenly gave me peace. 

  They kept asking me; 'if the pain was subsiding?' I responded with a "no."
But finally it did lessen;  and they went on with surgery as they gave me benedryl to relax me.

I wasn't sleepy, but it helped.   Isn't our Father protective of his children?!?!
  When I was in recovery;  they pulled out 5 of "tubes" and then put pressure on my arteries.  One clotted and did well.

So, the  extra nurses left because an emergency came and they rushed off to help. 
When the nurse pulled out the artery tube, my blood wouldn't stop and I was bleeding out.

I was crying and screaming from the pain and from seeing all the blood!

  She was up on the bed with me putting pressure on my artery. Very calmly telling me to breath.  I had stopped crying and was holding my breath. I became calm plus the pain was tolerable.

  I looked at the nurse on top of me and saw she was sobbing. 
I told her I was okay; and this is when she opened her heart and shared with me.

She told me that she was raised Jehovah Witness.  And exclaimed that she wanted to hear about this Jesus ( I guess I was screaming for Jesus to help).

  I started telling her all about my Father-God and answered her questions, when another nurse came in; so I stopped talking & she said, "No...go on!
I want to hear about your Jesus. And that speaking in tongues thing!"

So, for 45 minutes;  I got to talk about my Sweet Savior. I told them to get a Holy Bible, go to the New Testament (I had to explain what the New & Old Testament was).

I told them all I could at that moment; that they could read for themselves and to ask the Holy Spirit (which I explained) would  teach them truth and told them how to receive  salvation. 

Out of the horror, God blessed (used) me to get to witness to the surgical team and two nurses!!! 

When they were getting ready to roll me away, I hugged the nurse and thanked them for saving my life. The nurse said I was bleeding out,  we both started crying.

I thanked God for using my sweet nurse to save my life!
In addition, God had told my older sister I was in trouble and she prayed for me.

God is such a hoot!😂I am home, VERY LITTLE pain.
My blood pressure and  heart rate is fine and I feel GREAT! 

Oh, Daneille;  remember my story of help & deliverance when y'all get on the mission field!!!   When you can't go on....God takes over! And no matter how weak you may feel; 

God will always honor your 'will' to witness of His great Love!" 💗
Sheila Hester
Pastor's Wife at Assembly of God
Odin, IL

Would you like to send Sheila a note?
Write her at:
To Sheila Hester
C/O:  Odin Assembly of God Church
PO Box 309
Odin, IL 62870-0309

Friday, December 30, 2016


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Imagine this, you get injured and have an open wound that possibly sliced some nerves and ligaments.

Yet, you are just too busy to properly get it fixed which would entail; stitching, repairs, antibiotics and most importantly: time to heal (including therapy).

 As time goes by the outer wound heals after fighting off pain plus possible infection. Yet,  if not attended too; a torn ligament for example, can result in weakness in the muscles. Eventually, it could even affect and injure the muscles and tendons trying to compensate for the weakness of the 'un-healed' injury.

Recently, the Lord took me to this particular issue of un-healed wounds. He showed me how it's up to us if we are truly healed within. He gives us a 'REMEDY' to follow.

"He lets me lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside the still and quiet waters.
He refreshes and restores my soul (life);..."
Ps. 23:2,3a 
Photo by Tabitha Carin Snowden

This is a remedy to a wounded heart! It's the 'time' to heal; a therapy that 'STILLS' us enough to HEAL, plus be strengthen. Our culture measures success on 'staying-busy'; if you are not you are regarded as lazy, basically wasting your time. Instead of listening to the leading of God's Word; we bid to the craziness of a spinning world as we chase after each crisis and daily activities.

Let's take a look at what the  'GREEN PASTURES' & 'STILL WATERS' are:
He leads by His tender guidance - [He leads, less I wander.]

"He shall feed his flock like a shepherd: he shall gather the lambs with his arm, and carry them in his bosom, and shall gently lead those that are with young."
Isaiah 40:11

This brings sustenance, providing rest, and enjoying tranquility, peace, and safety; in the green pastures.
Photo by Tabitha Carin Snowden

*TENDER GRASS was the 'first-shoots' that were tender enough to not only walk on, but also to lay upon. Plus, it was the most nutritious grass to feast for the shepherd's weary sheep. 
The green pastures; "literally means, in grassy homesteads - " the richer, oasis-like spots, where a homestead would be fixed in a barren tract of land." THE BEST!

Think about this for a moment; this takes time and then using that restful, time to be fed, strengthened and restored to completeness.

Photo by Tabitha Carin Snowden
"Waters of rests, or refreshments: quiet and gentle waters, running in small and shallow channels, which are opposed to great rivers, that frighten sheep with their great noise, and expose them to be carried away by their swift and violent streams, while they are drinking at them." [Commentary- Bible Hub]

Where do we go for healing? Is it somewhere like this? Peaceful, quiet, nourishing???
Think about it; seriously -- as ministers and even Christians where do we go? Do we watch a movie?
Play games, or go work even more?

This is the place the shepherd
-Counts His sheep.
-Inspects them.
-Pours healing oils and ointments on their wounds.
-Makes sure they are eating and drinking.
-He comforts them all.
Many times shepherds were known to sing to their sheep, which caused them to feel safe and calm. He would prod with His staff those who needed to be moved out of danger and into a closer place with Him.

Oh, we sheep can be quite stubborn and more so, those of us who have been deeply wounded think we can 'keep going!'  NOT SO! Remember the scenario stated above!

My daughter had broke her leg as she was spending the night at a friends house. She had been jumping on a little trampoline and 'SNAP!' But, she continued to play on it because she didn't want to go home. She wanted to stay and have fun with her friend...EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS IN PAIN!
Of course the next day; after being home for several hours she showed me her leg which was purple and swollen. She kept jumping on a broken leg; causing even more injury.

Can we just listen to our SHEPHERD; to the One Who made us ...
"For he knoweth our frame;..."
Ps. 103:14

I love that old worship chorus: "Let's take time, to wait upon the Lord. Let's take time to listen to His Voice. Unless the Lord builds the House, we labor in vain; so let's take time to wait upon the Lord."

I have said it and I know just about everyone else has too; "I DON'T HAVE TIME TO WAIT, TO REST AND LAY BESIDE THE STILL WATERS."
YET...we are the same folks who grumble and complain, or cry over our wounded hearts and needs.

It reminds me of a typical individual who longs to loose weight, and learns about the 'how-to' the do's and don'ts; but still doesn't make the efforts to follow it. Then complains about not feeling good and being over-weight.  [I know, I've done that! 😉]

Look at Psalms 23:1 
"The Lord is my Shepherd [to feed, to guide and to shield me],
I shall not want."
 Then verse 2b :

The Lord kinda gave me HIS FATHERLY TONE; when I wanted to declare I have not had the time or place to be HEALED (and strengthened). "I have limited time, income and resources"; I told Him.
"Then dear one; YOU ARE NOT ALLOWING ME TO LEAD YOU!"  He replied.


What we are telling God, is I rather just go on with my un-healed wounds, and even cause more instability in my life than to trust YOU FATHER, to take me to those 'still-quiet places'; for healing.

'The place of TIME and even space; where He can take HIS TIME in HIS PRESENCE to operate on our inner being.'
~Daneille Snowden

We clearly see, written by one of the wisest men ever to live that TIME for every purpose is DESIGNED by our ALL-MIGHTY / ALL-KNOWING God! [Ecclesiastes 3:1-8] Verse 3b says:

"...a time to heal;..."

Yet, we still won't 'BE STILL' enough to HEAL! Hear the Lord crying out to His children; FOLLOW ME,  and wherever I take you, I will CARE for you. Even when we need to rest beside the still waters and have healing balm applied to our hearts: trust God with everything else. Life is not going to end there; it's just a period of time set aside for healing and restoration.

Remember, every TIME has it's PURPOSE. Let's not miss out on the purpose the Shepherd has for LEADING US beside the still waters, and tender pastures. Oh His Words will speak VOLUMES to our souls; His anointing oil will cleanse and mend our hearts, His Spirit will infuse His sweetness causing us to sing and dance again!

Take time, if you know you've been wounded and never took out the proper time and place to be healed; ask the Lord to lead. Allow Him to open your ears to hear and feet prepped, ready to go wherever He leads.


By E. W. Blandy
"Where He leads me I will follow,
Where He leads me I will follow,
Where He leads me I will follow,
I’ll go with Him, with Him all the way."

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Tuesday, November 1, 2016


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"Two roads diverged in a wood and I - I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference." Robert Frost

When my family was smaller (my husband, son & I); we went on a vacation into the lower Rockies. I have had the blessed experience of traveling through the Smoky Mountains; but this was an entire new adventure in itself.  My husband knew my dread of heights and tried to keep me calm. But, how can one ignore the beauty of God's creation in such magnitude, as I inspected those mountains!
Then it happened; the road became narrow, space for two vehicles were squeezed tight and the shoulder -- where was the shoulder of the road? Ha! All we saw was 'NOTHING'!
My enjoyment of God's great beauty burst and what evolved was panic! It didn't help that the air was actually thinning as I felt myself hyperventilating!  It was fun, adventurous, momentous even and I wouldn't trade that little (big) trip for anything! The experience was priceless! We saw places we had not seen together as a couple before and sense.

Twenty years later; in my time with the Lord, He brought me back to that summer and our needed vacation. Ya see, I was reflecting on our life, and ministry with all it's ups and downs. At that moment, I must admit- I was down. I asked the Lord;
"Why did we have to travel down a different route a lot of others haven't?" [I.E. - the smaller churches, challenges with being new in a community, financial, physical and the emotional difficulties as well.]  Then God took me to the winding roads up the Rocky Mountains.

My dear Heavenly Father reminded me saying; "I called you, not you or others. I saw the lost souls, the unloved, the misunderstood that are not among the crowds but off by the way side. I needed One of My children to love on them. I knew you would do this.
Those among the wayside saw your struggles and that caught
their hearts attention. It was the 'net' that drew them to Me.
And your faithfulness has only drawn You even closer to my heart as well.
I know the road less travelled is long and quite lonely. Many don't understand you and the vision I have placed within your soul. Yet, I placed My Hand of Favor on Your lives; with that there is an eternal Joy that strengthens your feet to move on.
As you look back and see how far you've come, and all the many places + faces you've encountered - in your soul may your spirit rejoice seeing the fruit multiplied!"

This has been my encouragement as we are now on another winding road; to a place quite unfamiliar. All we want to do is LOVE those along the way. To stop and minister fully to them, filling all with His Hope and Purpose.

Our thrust is: trusting in the Lord's leading as the patriarch Abraham who took the step forward with His family obeying God's Voice to leave His kin and pursue the Call!  Many didn't understand him, he left his friends and all he knew (from his culture) to please His God! [Acts 7:2-3  "Ur was justified in its boast of being a highly developed civilization.he turned his back on a great metropolis, setting out by faith for a land about which he knew little or nothing and which could probably offer him little from a standpoint of material benefits." [link]
Genesis 12:1: “Now the Lord said to Abram, ‘Go forth from your country, and from your relatives and from your father’s house, to the land which I will show you.’”

"By faith Abraham, when he was called, obeyed by going out to a place which he was to receive for an inheritance; and he went out, not knowing where he was going." Hebrews 11:8

As I gaze back in the beginning of my life-walk in the ministry;
I saw a willing and passionate couple who yet, had so much to learn and grow in (and still do). Both of us feeling like Abraham who, " the point of his call, he was a man whose faith was meager; real, but meager." [ quote] 

Are you on the 'ROAD LESS TRAVELED'? May I encourage you to 'STAY THE COARSE!'  It is worth it; every single life touched, and faith that has grown will and is even now producing lasting harvest for eternity and God's Glory!


Monday, October 3, 2016



"How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed? and how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard? and how shall they hear without a preacher?"                                    ~Romans 10:14~

     In just a few weeks churches all across the U.S. will be

celebrating Pastor's Appreciation Day on October 14, 2012.  

Yearly this falls on the... CLICK HERE FOR THE REST


Friday, August 19, 2016


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There is an untold, yet known secret Pastors don't hardly share ; because it happens way too much and hurts deeply.

It causes pastors and their families to feel isolated, and sometimes ashamed. They begin to question; "What is wrong with me?"

This secret event causes the 'knee-jerk' reaction of backing away from close relationships, with not being able to trust others.

This 'secret' is: When people within the church get upset over
one thing or another; leaving their place of worship, in addition they stop talking to their Pastor's. They may continue relationships with others within the Body, but definitely not with the pastor.

In my own personal life (of 51 years) only one time in it, has anyone become upset over an issue that resulted ending the relationship. And I have never done that to anyone else.
Most people, because they care about the relationship they have; will try to 'talk-out' their differences and work on rectifying it; I know I have. Communication is truly vital; being open and honest with one another continues the friendship.

Yet, this is NOT the case when you pastor a church.

First of all, when a Pastor comes into a community (led by the Lord); he comes to SERVE. He comes out of Love for His Lord, Who in turns fills the Pastor & his family with Love for His Church. Thus, this shows in their reaching out in various ways and time. Such as: visits to the hospital, homes, counseling, praying with them, funerals, and even at the kids baseball games! Initially; becoming a special 'part-of-the-family'.
Pastors and their church body; laugh & cry together. Also they definitely pray A LOT together, worship together and even eat together!

Yet, when someone gets upset about one thing or another; it could be big or small; most people; up and leave without truly talking it through with their pastor. They may call others in the body; but not the pastor.

Some (not all) will not stop there either; they will go around and then speak vile words about the pastor and his family. This of course doesn't display the TRUE CHARACTER OF OUR LORD JESUS whatsoever. It displays the divisive character trait of Satan himself. [Harsh, but true.] John 8:44 

This takes me back to the SECRET of feeling a hurt by someone they served and befriended; then, in turn: abandoned so easily.
How is this not like what our dear Lord faced when the disciples abandoned Him as He hung on the cross? Oh, such strength He portrayed before all of mankind. The indisputable LOVE He showed as He hung all alone saying; "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do!" (Lu. 23:24) This wasn't just for His persecutors, but for those who betrayed and abandoned Him too!

The average within each church body of individuals doing this, ranges from 20 to 25% of the attendance. Let me tell ya, ONE is enough!
Thus, regardless of the size of the church; this happens all the time, everywhere!

This post is not going to be a : 'How To End Disputes Within The Church' - no, it's about the Pastor and his dear family.

_____________My Advice______________

FIRST :  KNOW THIS...Pastor, Pastor's wife and even children...YOU ARE NOT ALONE! And you don't have to look far either to know that.
SECOND: Pastor's, reach out to each other; share this pain! I guarantee you, that you will discover that your fellow colleague is facing or has recently faced this 'hurt' too.
THIRDLY: Ask the Lord to soothe your heart. Only He can do it; just plead the Blood of Jesus over this open (bleeding) wound. Speak His peace over you and your family.
FOURTHLY:  Ask God to help you not become 'bitter'! Big one! So many pastors, and even more: pastors wives and children; become bitter & angry. This will only DESTROY! Remember, who wants to destroy you, your ministry and possibly even your walk with God? Yep, Satan ...the sly ole enemy of our souls! By giving into this anger...he has a FOOT in the door of your heart. No...don't let this happen! (Eph. 4:31)
              -- If you have, ask God to reveal it to you. Then; allow the Holy Spirit to do surgery on your spirit. It will be difficult; like removing a tumor. But, it is worth it in the end!
             -- Let His Joy come in and fill that vacant spot...and see Him do a great work in and through you!
FIVE: Talk with your wife and children! Oh please, you may be alright, but your wife may be in pain (or it's the other way around). And as a pastor's kid (& having PK's); I can also tell you the children feel hurt too! I would go to bed just crying seeing my parents mistreated as they were. I knew how sweet, and loving they were and how bad people hurt them. It caused my brother and I to question the church of Jesus Christ. For we felt the punch too often in our family. Thus, have a family time; discussing the events that happened. And do this as often as necessary. Have one on one with the kids; get them to talk it out and you share your heart too.
                  -- I also encourage you to 'get-away' as a family and or a couple. To be refreshed and refocused.
SIX: Talk with your leadership and if need be others who have seen this happen. Be guarded with your words...make sure they are words led by the Lord and NOT the flesh.
Like I said before; communication is essential for a healthy relationship.

Pastor, Pastor's Wife...children; know you are not alone; we are
all in this together. Keep going forward; with the Strength of God...praising Him always. Look up, let Him become your all in all!

~Daneille (Co-Pastor for 25 years)